Wednesday, January 10, 2007
The Bouncing-back stone
There is the stepping stone and thus i created the bouncing-back stone. When a guy/girl breaks up with his/her other half or gets rejected, the next person he/she likes or fall for immediately is called the bouncing-back stone. Bouncing-back as such feelings and emotions that the person(A) has for the next person(B) might be fleeting, sudden and seldom last or develop further. The next person could become a bouncing-back stone or a substitute, both are different in nature.
But why do i call it the bouncing-back? Simply because A would be hurt and emotional at that period of time and anyone that comes by and can allow A to hold onto and can comfort him/her even for the moment, A would grasp that opportunity. It may be thought of as like or love, but its simply infatuation that will fade in time. But if A simply gives himself/herself time to regain his/her footing and gain control of emotions, B might after all not be a bouncing-back stone.
When anyone gets rejected or ditched, his/her friends would be by his/her side and often one of the friends might become this stone. When that happens, a friendship could be at stake. For should they get together or ignore such feelings? If they get together and later realised that such feelings are temporary and long gone, what would become of their friendship. Its never easy to be friends with your ex though many have said " we will still be friends after we break up". Truth is it would be awkward for both parties. But if they ignored and continue as friends, soon that feelings would disappear and things would be back to normal.
As friends, we stand by each other, being there for one another even through rejections and break-ups. To me, its always best to know where to draw the line between friends and more-than friends as every friendship is precious. There will be many moments when feelings develop and we aint sure if we like our friend in the boy-girl way or simply our friendship just became stronger.
Thus, for myself, whenever a friend gets rejected or ditched, i would be there for him, but there must always be a limit to how much care and love i can provide as i treasure our friendship as much as our hearts. Broken hearts and friendships are hard to mend. I guess its this thinking of mine that made me set some principles for myself, to always stay clear of having relationships with such friends as it would complicate the friendship that we once shared.
The End. (this entry is solely based on my views)
Time heals all wounds. But scars remains.
she told
the story ...
7:00 PM
