Wednesday, January 10, 2007
The Substitute
Substitute: a person or thing that takes the place or function of another.
When a guy/girl breaks up with his/her other half, he/she might fall for another person, subconsciously using her/him as a substitute of the other half. In the previous entry, it was a feeling developed by the former for the latter. But in this case, its what the former can get from the latter, things that were lost after the break-up. Intangible things such as love, care and warmth. If the latter is a friend or someone the former had just met, friendship could be at stake as when time passes by, both would know whats actually happening. When the former knows that his/her actions are of such reasons, it would be best not to start any relationship till he/she is emotionally stable and have already moved on. Ignorance could be used as an excuse. But if the former knowingly continues on, such character and attitude would be questionable. Using others as a substitute to soothe the inner hurt at their expenses is simply unforgivable as others would get hurt in the process.
Letting go is difficult. Once you have let go, its time to move on. But moving on is even more difficult and would need more efforts and determination. It would be worse if someone is dragged into it. After moving on, your heart would slowly be open and ready to love once again. Thats when you are prepared to accept someone else into your heart and life.
I guess i have been in such situations many times. And in these many times, i was so so tempted to just allow a relationship to begin, simply for the comforts and love it can and will bring into my shattered life. At the lowest point and darkest period of my life, i need someone to hold onto to stay afloat and not drown myself in tears and sorrows. I am too used to the warmth and love i once had and was constantly given. Now those were all gone with the winds, leaving me behind. But i know it would be wrong and terrible if i gave in to temptations. I dont want to use anyone as a substitute for him, cause the truth is...no one can be his substitute. Everyone is unique and special in their own ways. There is only one him and will be only one him.
The End.
我承认我还没忘了他.我还是会想他.
she told
the story ...
8:28 PM
